If you are like most people, there will come a time in your life where you are stuck, in your love life or just in your life. Are you alone? Are you in a bad or just boring relationship? Well, it’s a new year and there is no better time to look back at what got you to this place in life and look ahead to where you would like it to go in the future. Now, take a good look at the present and the changes you need to make. I recommend, instead of the usual “baby steps” or “sticking your toe in the water”…..if a change is what you what, then you must plunge into action. Now!
One of my big changes last year was starting my own internet radio show, called “Love Life Makeovers” where each week I have a featured guest who has insight or advice on anything and all things love related. And if you had told me this time last year, that I would have this show..(that has become hugely popular)…I would have said “no way.” So, I speak from experience when I give you the following advice on changing your life for the better. I hope it helps.
Here are a few suggestions to get you started, although, everyone’s “sticking point” is different..the idea is to take an honest look at your life and what is holding you back and to tackle it in a big way. But, I have listed big and small changes…for those who aren’t quite ready yet.
Step 1: If you are tired of looking at you’re same old place…change it. If you can’t move (which would be the best way for a huge change, because it changes who you meet at the grocery store, gas station and changes your whole life) then just redecorate your place. Sell your furniture on craigslist..or trade it in..or just move it around and recover. Paint. Painting a room is an instant affordable, change. Put new or vintage knobs on your doors and cabinets. Get new pictures for your walls. You can even just start small, with your bathroom. Any change is change. FYI…changing your bedroom, even what you wear to bed…is a great place to start with changing your current love situation. Freshen it up, spice it up.
Step 2: Start going to new places…even just to run errands or walk your dogs.
Step 3: Smile and say “Hi” to anyone and everyone. I can’t tell you how much positive attention I get from people when I walk around with a smile on my face. And not a huge “I’m crazy” smile..but, a pleasant, friendly smile. And make sure you are aware of your facial expression at all times. Even just smiling when you’re by yourself..will put you in a better mood. This might sound strange…but, it works.
Step 4: If you don’t like your career….do something about it. Look around for other work opportunities or even sign up to do community work. This might open new job opportunities and will most certainly allow you to meet new people.
Step 5: Change your love life. Change your life. If you are single and lonely or in a unhappy relationship …nothing will change until you make it happen. The other person will never change….you are the only one that can make your life better. So, maybe you need to start going to therapy or you need to join a women’s or men’s support group (whether you’re single or in a relationship). If you’re single, join online dating sites and choose differently. Do not choose dates based on looks. Make choices based on inner qualities that you seek in someone. If you don’t want to do online dating, then join a “meetup” (meetup.com is a free web site, where you can find a group for anything you like to do).
All of the steps mentioned above will change your love life in one way or another. Because when you start the ball rolling for any type of change, you will be amazed at how it just keeps rolling and rolling. The key is to keep it rolling, by making changes. Make an agreement with yourself to do something everyday or just once a week, that you normally never do. If you do this now, then next year at this time you will look back on your life and you will be so amazed and proud of all of the changes you have made.
The best thing that I did for myself last year..that started the ball rolling for me, was, I made a sign that said “What Did You Do To Change Your Life Today?” and I put it where I would see it at the end of everyday. I can’t tell you how many many many changes that happened in my life last year, all for the better…and this year, there is still more change to come. It’s fun, it’s exciting and necessary. The best quote I heard recently was: “The only difference between a rut and a grave, is the depth”. So what are you waiting for? Give yourself a love life makeover now!
And if you have any questions, I’m always here to help.