As an elite matchmaker, I have the unique privilege of hearing the unfiltered truths about what turns people off in dating. In a recent video, I shared the two most unattractive qualities in women and the two in men. While my advice was directed at both genders, it offers a window into how I curate and refine the people I introduce to my high-status clients.
The Two Worst Traits in Women
In the video, I get straight to the point: women who act entitled and women who are overly needy are huge turnoffs. Entitlement—expecting special treatment without earning it—immediately signals a lack of humility and gratitude. Being needy—constantly seeking validation or attention—suggests insecurity and a lack of self-sufficiency. I explain that these behaviors repel high-achieving men. When a woman is busy with her own life in a genuine way, not playing games or scratching for crumbs from “bums,” she becomes far more attractive. Independence is magnetic; neediness is not.
The Two Worst Traits in Men
I also call out the men: a “pouty baby” attitude and having a chip on one’s shoulder are equally unattractive. Over time, some single men develop resentment and negativity. They carry a chip on their shoulder, projecting bitterness. Others become pouty when they don’t get what they want. Both behaviors signal immaturity and emotional baggage. I advise men to ditch the chip and stop pouting. A man with confidence and a positive mindset is far more appealing to a high-quality woman.
What This Means for My Clients
Why share these insights? Because they inform how I curate my dating pool. For my elite male clients, entitlement and neediness are deal-breakers. I actively coach women to cultivate independence, focus on their own goals, and maintain a life that’s genuinely full. A woman who isn’t scratching for validation or attention is exactly who my clients want. Likewise, I’m cautious about the men I work with. If a man has a chip on his shoulder or acts like a pouty baby, I know he’s not ready for the kind of woman I represent. My job is to ensure compatibility on both sides.
A Gatekeeper for High-Value Men
This dual perspective—understanding both male and female turnoffs—enables me to act as a trusted gatekeeper. I see the behaviors that derail relationships, and I help people correct them. I set high standards for the women in my network: they must be confident, independent, and genuinely busy with their own lives. I also require men to show emotional maturity and leave negativity behind. This rigorous screening means that when my male clients meet a woman through me, she embodies the qualities they value, and he has the mindset to appreciate her.
You can watch the full video and hear my advice here: The Most Unattractive Traits in Women and Men
If you’re a successful, high-status man, know that working with me guarantees access to exceptional women who are elegant, self-sufficient, and far from entitled or needy. By filtering out the negative traits on both sides, I ensure a seamless and rewarding matchmaking process. When you’re ready to meet a partner who truly complements your life, I invite you to schedule a private consultation.