As a top Los Angeles-based matchmaker since 2008, I have had the privilege of putting thousands of couples together who went on to get married and start beautiful families. And the other side of the coin is that I have also had the vantage point of seeing from behind the scenes what keeps elite men and extraordinary women single. So, I put together a list and here it is: 6 Reasons You’re Still Single.
1. You’re not willing to make room or reprioritize your life for someone.
Many successful and driven people prioritize their careers or personal goals over finding love. While it’s important to have goals, it’s also important to make room in your life for a significant other. This may involve changing your schedule, adjusting your priorities, and making compromises. It’s important to recognize that a relationship requires time, effort, and commitment, and that sometimes means putting aside other things to make room for it.
2. You think that a relationship (if you hit it off) should go fast, and you have no patience and want an instant boyfriend or girlfriend.
In today’s fast-paced world, many people want instant gratification in all aspects of life, including relationships. However, building a strong and lasting relationship takes time, effort, and patience. Rushing into a relationship can lead to disappointment and heartbreak, as well as potentially missing out on a great match. It’s important to take the time to get to know someone before jumping into a relationship.
3. You’re stuck on a fantasy where no one will ever be good enough to please you.
Sometimes, people have a fixed idea of what their ideal partner should be like, and they’re unwilling to compromise or adjust their expectations. They may have a “checklist” of traits that a partner must have, and if someone doesn’t meet all those criteria, they’re dismissed as not good enough. This type of thinking can be self-defeating, as no one is perfect, and focusing too much on finding someone who meets a specific set of criteria can cause you to overlook potential partners who may be a great match in other ways.
4. You’re stuck in your ways. Your way of doing things, on your schedule, and you like it that way. You’re not willing to change it up.
Some people are set in their ways and resistant to change, which can be a major obstacle to building a successful relationship. A relationship requires compromise, communication, and flexibility, and being unwilling to adapt or change can make it difficult to navigate the ups and downs of a partnership. It’s important to recognize that both partners in a relationship need to be willing to compromise and make changes to make the relationship work.
5. You have all these preconceived ideas about other single people, and you’re fearful.
You’re suspicious about why he’s single rather than being hopeful and excited to meet a great guy. You’re like, “Hmm, wonder what’s wrong with him?”, or you’re afraid that women are only after your money instead of wanting an authentic connection. Sometimes, people have negative or judgmental views of other single people, which can be a barrier to building new relationships. These attitudes can make it difficult to approach potential partners with an open mind and heart.
6. Last but not least: You are so stuck in your belief (whatever that is) that you won’t open up to new ways of doing things.
Finally, some people are resistant to trying new things or approaches, which can limit their ability to build new relationships. They may be stuck in old habits or ways of thinking, or they may be resistant to trying new activities or meeting new people. Being open to new experiences and ways of thinking can help break down barriers and make it easier to connect with others.
As we get older, the challenges of finding love only get worse. By being open to change, growth, and new ways of doing things, we can increase our chances of finding a meaningful connection. With a 98% success rate, the insights of this top matchmaker are invaluable for anyone seeking to find their perfect match.
I know what I’m saying is true — because I have been able to pair countless elite men and women looking for love with a 98% success rate.