Top 10 List Why Looking for Perfect Will Keep You Single Forever

Why Looking For Perfect Will Never Work!

As a matchmaker I hear lots of the same “I’m looking for XYZ” lists over and over and I’m here to tell you, your list usually is so narrow and means absolutely nothing in terms of who would be right for you because you’ve missed ONE key point!

You could have the “perfect” long list of this great person with things like:

“Hot body, narrow age bracket, trustworthy, successful, caring, makes X amount of money, gets on with your friends and family, treats you to things you love etc…”

But it doesn’t change a thing about you being able to ATTRACT them and spot a great match:

10. Looks fade. It’s SUPERFICIAL and usually has no meaning to what’s (truly) important for a long lasting relationship.

In 10 or 20 years time all the superficial stuff that got you there in the first place will have faded anyway, and all you’ll be left with what was underneath!

9. You’re completely stuck on this image of the perfect person, you’re not being OPEN enough!

You’re so hard-wired on a type (even physically) you’re not willing to consider they could be any different from what you’re imagining – you are seriously limiting yourself here!

8. It’s making you super judgemental and stuck-up whenever you meet someone!

All you see is “lack” of the perfect person and how they don’t exist, when I’m pretty sure you’re not perfect yourself! You’d miss a great match even if they did come along!

7. You’re holding onto a fantasy and fantasies very rarely ever come true!

Yes, even my friends mom won the lottery..BUT she’s the ONLY person I have ever known to. And think of how many people dream of it. So yes, dreams do come true…..but it’s VERY rare. And everyone knows when it comes to humans, perfect doesn’t exist. You may have a perfect home, perfect car, perfect boobs, or perfect wardrobe but being hung up on perfection in someone else will leave you cold at night. So–I hope you have the perfect blanket too!

6 . You don’t know what’s “perfect” for you

Your list of perfect isn’t in alignment to who YOU are, from knowing what you value in yourself, in life and what you’ve learnt to be true to you.

5.You place your self-worth in your idea of Perfect

Your expectations of perfect come from insecurity. You’re looking for perfect to prove your worth to yourself or to others which just makes you come across needy and unattractive.

4. You think all this criteria increases your chances of meeting a “greater” person

You’re not doing the work on yourself because you don’t realize who you attract, mirrors the relationship you have with yourself, and how everyone is on their own journey. You can’t expect a “finished” perfect person!

3.You’re blind to how someone absolutely ISN’T a great match!

You’re letting anyone in if they have the “look” and shows you attention. You’re so hung up on all the ways a person IS ‘perfect’ on the surface, you tolerate things you just otherwise wouldn’t!

2. It’s just….boring!

Fate and being swept of your feet doesn’t come from perfection and expectations, but from someone who surprises you! …Anyway can you imagine anything more boring than having sex with someone so ‘perfect’?!

1. Most importantly….You miss the number one ESSENTIAL factor – Who cares if their look isn’t “perfect” it’s HOW they APPRECIATE YOU for the real you!

For the long-term you need a partner that loves you, appreciates you and is crazy about you and devoted to the relationship. Too many times you are so enamoured with the other person and how they appeal to you–that you forget to step back and see just how they TREAT you, how do they REALLY make you feel?

You could have the so-called perfect everything but true happiness comes from creating a life that FEELS amazing on the inside, not a life that looks perfect on the outside. Be genuine in your expectations and think of the long-term. Look for those who you can admire and respect–believe me that will last MUCH longer than how they look.