As an elite matchmaker, I hear all the unfiltered reasons why relationships fizzle before they even start. In one of my recent videos, I addressed a common scenario that women face: a man who texts and says all the right things but never actually makes plans to meet. The message I gave them is simple—if he’s not asking you out, something’s wrong.
I tell women not to obsess over the reasons. Maybe he isn’t who he says he is. Maybe he’s not really available. Or maybe he’s just not interested enough. Whatever the reason, it doesn’t matter if he’s not taking action. And when he says, “I’m out of the country for a while,” I advise women to respond with a boundary: “Call me when you get back and we can plan something.” That’s it. No extended back-and-forth with a stranger who isn’t serious. Have boundaries. Have standards. A man who truly wants to see you will make it happen.
Coaching Women to Expect More
Why do I tell women to walk away from men who won’t meet in person? Because I know what high-status men expect. The men I work with—CEOs, executives, entrepreneurs—don’t waste their time texting endlessly. They are decisive and action-oriented. They want a woman who knows her worth, has strong boundaries, and won’t chase a man who’s not stepping up. When I coach women to stop playing games and stay busy with their own lives, it’s because independence and self-respect are qualities that attract elite men. By refusing to engage with men who aren’t sincere, women become more discerning—and these are the women I introduce to my clients.
Filtering Men to Protect Your Time
This isn’t just about coaching women; it’s also about holding men to a higher standard. In my video, I make it clear that being “out of the country” is not an excuse to waste a woman’s time. If you’re not available to meet, then don’t start a conversation. My clients respect women too much to string them along. When I meet men who are evasive or avoid making plans, I know they’re not ready for a relationship with the kind of women I represent. I’m selective about the men I work with, just as I’m selective about the women. This dual filter ensures that my introductions are meaningful and mutually respectful.
What This Means for High-Status Men
If you’re a successful man seeking a partner who matches your ambition and lifestyle, you deserve more than a list of pretty profiles. You deserve a matchmaker who vets and guides each candidate—both women and men. When I tell women not to entertain men who don’t make real plans, I’m ensuring that the women you meet through me understand the value of their time and yours. They won’t be chasing unavailable men; they’ll be attracted to decisive leaders like you.
Likewise, I expect my male clients to be proactive and honest about their intentions. If you’re serious about meeting the right woman, show it by making plans and following through. I see behind the scenes how these early interactions shape relationships, and I use that insight to refine my pool.
You can watch the full discussion in my video here: Is He Stringing You Along
Ultimately, my role is to be your gatekeeper. I listen to the candid feedback from both sides, identify behaviors that derail connections, and coach people to rise to the level my clients expect. That’s how I create matches that endure. If you’re ready to meet women who have standards, boundaries, and genuine independence—and are looking for a man who respects those qualities—I invite you to schedule a private consultation. With my curated approach, you’ll encounter women who appreciate the value of face-to-face connection and who are ready for a relationship that matches your success.